It is important to let children know that it is perfectly fine to feel sad sometimes. Sad happens.
I want to share a recent experience with you. How It was handled and why I’m writing about it now.
A 4-year-old child creates a picture at the beginning of a school day. 8 hours later Mom arrives to take this child home from school. The kid cannot find the artwork. Drama ensues. The child is distraught, disappointed and sad to not find the art. The parent can not stand to have this child in this current state.
Mom says she will drive the child to the store - at this very minute - to buy her paper, crayons and colored pencils. I thought this seemed very wrong.
This child will not be able to solve every sadness by shopping. When she grows up will she try to solve sad with drinking, overeating or some other vice?
I get sad. I totally understood her feelings and got down on her level to let her know I she was safe in feeling how she felt.
Sad can feel scary. You can feel sad in your gut and in your chest. It’s called heartbreak for a reason. But it is temporary. We have happy and we have sad, and everything in between.
Instead of bending over backwards to keep a child from feeling this sadness, why not let them sit with it and explore it with them? At some point in all of our lives we will experience negative emotions. It is unavoidable. Our disappointments are also part of our growth here on this Earth School. It can be that these times of sadness are our greatest times of learning, living our fullest potential.
By letting a child know you see them, you let them know that what they are feeling is normal. It will pass. You’re sad now, but you won’t be forever.
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